Monday, 18 August 2014

An Unattended Death



A ninety year old woman died in her home in Auburn. She had decomposed through the floor before she was found six months later. The diaries found in her belongings shed light on this lonely and brilliant mind. Watch the documentary, and read excerpts from her diaries here.

http://www.sbs.com.au/thefeed/blog/2014/08/11/unattended-death

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2726565/Old-age-curse-I-feel-like-half-dried-rug-purpose-rung-Heartbreaking-words-woman-outlived-loved-ones-lost-zest-life-dying-kitchen-floor.html

 One of the commenters in the Daily Mail said;

it's sadly true that if you go for a career over children, then it's later that you may bitterly regret it. If you can't have your own children, then either adopt, foster, or try to keep in contact with young people in some way or other. You may be old, ugly, boring or whatever, but if you have shown love to any young ones, they will love you back and won't abandon you.

To which someone else said:

Yet another breeder who thinks that by miraculously having children, their life will be complete. It's disgusting to think that you know better over those who have made a conscious decision not to have them; do you ever wonder why there are so many feral children, so many in care, so many that will always be unemployed or disaffected? Forcing those who know they will not be good parents to have children in the hopes things will all of a sudden burst into miraculous joy and rainbows and love is the ultimate selfishness. This woman never regretted having children, it's the article that said they didn't have any. It's you who are the sad one, thinking all women are good for is breeding or parenting. Quite frankly, I think it's horrific that you think people have to have children to burden them with looking after them when they get old - it's like breeding slaves.

You can see their exchange if you go to the comments and click the 'best rated' option.

30 comments:

  1. This would have been unthinkable and impossible a generation ago. My grandmother who was ill, had a constant stream of visitors. Her children lived in other towns, but, visited regularly. These days, children only visit ther elderly parents, in order to make their inheritance is secure.

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  2. I would add that, by having children you're breeding slaves even if you don't expect them to take care of you when you're old. (Unless, of course, you'll provision adequately for them such that they should never need to toil to earn a living.)

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  3. I just watched the documentary. I don't even know where to begin...
    I feel a bit sick at my voyeurism. Although she left a memoir (which, presumably assumed that someone, someday would read it--it sounds as though that's what she wanted, given her "shame-on-you" tone at parts), I'm not so sure she would have wanted strangers picking through, and televising, her belongings. I know I wouldn't. The thought of people gawking at my personal effects after I'm gone is horrifying. I'm not entirely sure why that is, given I'll be dead and unaware, but still, somehow, it is. The horror is so strong that I've puzzled over how to handle my exit so as to avoid such a thing. I'd rather no one even find my corpse.
    One other thing... my grandmother, at a similar age, died in a very similar fashion. And she had offspring. We lived thousands of miles from her, so it's not too hard to understand how this could have come to pass. Childfreedom is far from being prerequisite.
    I don't know if dying alone is worse than dying in company. Dying, especially if accompanied by fits and paroxysms, is most unglamorous. Do we really want an audience? All things considered, I think I prefer to die alone. We'll see if that feeling evolves as death comes knocking more loudly.

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  4. I'd rather die alone, don't want anyone hovering over me while I'm breathing my last,slipping into oblivion,spare me the meladrama-Jesus.

    "Then I thought about the whole bunch of them sticking me in a goddam cemetery and all, with my name on this tombstone and all. Surrounded by dead guys. Boy, when you're dead, they really fix you up. I hope to hell when I do die somebody has sense enough to just dump me in the river or something. Anything except sticking me in a goddam cemetery. People coming and putting a bunch of flowers on your stomach on Sunday, and all that crap. Who wants flowers when you're dead? Nobody".

    I'd rather die holding Euclid's Elements(my Bible).It helps me to focus on the noumenon & takes me away from this phenomenal world which is not real as its always in flux.

    Consciousness is much more than the thorn, it is the dagger in in the flesh.Screw the world,screw breeders.

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    1. ....would only be polite to mention Cioran's name when using his words.

      And the noumenon....just rattling in the head of a mistaken so-called, rational animal....if it can't die (change) then who can love it....

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  5. A person who dies alone simply chooses a little privacy at the most crucial moment of existence. Why does everything in the modern world have to be done in front of an audience?

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  6. Biology isn't family. We as a human race need to finally realize this. Family members are anybody who loves, supports and respects you and often this kind of love and respect comes only from outside of the biological family unit. So what if you have a kid or five, it doesn't mean they are your family. You are in essence trying to force them to love you and they might never be able to do that. They are a whole different person and may not be compatible with the parent at all. They might find other non-genetically related people that they love but never feel love for their parent. And that is ok. My biological dad abandoned me now how could I possibly ever love the man? Perhaps his heart still burns with love toward me his child but my heart is cold and empty towards him. I have found family elsewhere and will not be dictated by biology as to who is in and who is out of my family. I do not go seeking within my womb to try to find family. Family is out there. Maybe in the form of a stranger, maybe in the form of a stray cat, maybe in a neighbor I never took the time to really get to know. I never know when I'll stumble upon a new family member. And the most precious thing is that my family is REAL. They are choosing to be with me, and I with them. I've not tied them down and forced them to be with me through biological ties. I'm not demanding them to do anything for me. They're free to leave if they want. That's a family.

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    1. What family you are talking about? Don't have kids! No kids ,no family.Period.

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    2. I am an antinatalist. Of course I'm not having kids. What I am saying is that we don't need biology to make a family. We can bond with people and animals that already exist. This is how I have a family even though I will never breed. I don't care that I'm not genetically related to my family.

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    3. No,all human beings suck,family or no family,biological or social.

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    4. Couldn't have said it better myself. Oh, and hi Karl, and Raf... if you're lurking about! :)

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    5. Hey, Garrett! Lovely to see you commenting, man. Drop me an email sometime if you feel that way inclined. Hope you're keeping safe, buddy.

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    6. Waaaugh! I can't get the email to go through. Do you have a new addy?

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    7. Sent you a test through my usual address to the last address I have for you.

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  7. It's always good to die surrounded by family! (BTW, shall we consider this a case of "hindsight antinatalism", or something along those lines?)
    http://news.yahoo.com/four-members-suburban-chicago-family-found-shot-death-165443914.html

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    1. Speak for yourself,I want to die alone.

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    2. sarcasm alert, yo! (read the article)

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    3. speak for yourself, yo! (read the article)

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    4. ....dont' we all?! ....we can assume....

      Words are a horrible thing. We can.... Assume they are all "for [our]self....?!

      ....or really nothing.... Lock in.... Skull....

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  8. Awesome, Karl. Plus there are superb comments here =).

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  9. Karl,

    A new report today from The World Health Organization:

    Suicide kills one person worldwide every 40 seconds

    “How are we making our citizens so miserable, depressed, feeling that life is meaningless?” Lester said by e-mail. “The high rates of drug use, depression and suicide demand a much more profound discussion of what is wrong with society today.”

    Read here:

    http://www.bloomberg.com/news/2014-09-04/suicide-every-40-seconds-requires-prevention-measures.html

    and here:

    http://www.theguardian.com/society/2014/sep/04/suicide-kills-every-40-seconds-who

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  10. Hi Karl, another lurker here.

    I don't your thoughts on Inmendham, but I saw that he recently released a new episode on VloggerDome:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CYreDRLTc_w

    Say what you will, but personally, despite agreeing with most of the views espoused in the video, I think it reeks of narcissism and obnoxiousness.

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  11. This is Mr.Q-

    For all his musings, the antinatalist needs a nice fresh lassie, with big breasts, like it promises in the Qur'an, to romance for the weekend. He will feel better.

    If you believe that the answer to our wretched species is extinction, then I invite you try a good line of Coke or Ayahuasca or take some pure MDMAand your disease will vanish like Dracula in the summer sun.

    Maybe you should chill out a little and relax friend. Watch telly .

    The Good Lord says-be fruitful & multiply!

    Truly godly families will “trust the Lord” with their family planning. Children are unmitigated blessings (“As arrows in the hand of the mighty man, so are the children of ones youth, happy is the man who hath his quiver full of them”) and as such, a should have as many children as the Lord chooses to bless them with. Artificial or chemical birth control such as the Pill or IUDs are like abortion ~ the sin of murdering your own offspring. “Natural” birth control such as Natural Family Planning is not actually “natural” because a couple must abstain at the very time of the month when the woman is naturally more desirous of physical intimacy. All methods of “conception control” is a lack of trust in God to provide for the “children of the righteous.”
    Be Radically Pro-Life – A.K.A. “Quiverfull,”
    Join “the Christian family renewal movement” & the practice of “biblical family values.”
    My mom had nine kids. She was either nursing or pregnant for almost all of my childhood.
    Keep the lactation pump going!My mom worked as a nurse before my dad retired her to start having kids on a semi-professional basis.Some women in the family may go to college (only as a backup plan in case your husband becomes a paraplegic, of course), but birthing and caring for kids is the highest achievement a woman could or should aspire to. Even little girls aren't really encouraged to dream much beyond that goal. My daughter used to create complicated strategy games for racing these little horse figurines she collected. We banned her from playing it because she wasn't spending enough time helping with babies, cooking, and cleaning. Now she is a proud mother of 4 kids.

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    1. Oh, fuck off! Does the "Q" in your name stand for "Queefer"?

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    2. The embrace of 'life' is the original case of stockholm syndrome.

      Why are humans such puny creatures?

      How hard is it to stand up for yourself?

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  12. Sorry, OT:
    Does anyone know if Jim is OK? His last two blog entries suggested he was ill. They're a few months old. A couple of us have asked him to let us know if he's ok, and... nothing. Has anyone heard from him?

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  13. Grandmother starves herself to death
    An elderly woman has starved herself to death to get around the UK’s tight and restrictive laws on assisted suicide.

    Octogenarian Jean Davies, who is also a right-to-die campaigner, spent five weeks attempting to end her life and succeeded in doing so on 1 October.

    The former maths teacher, 86, did not have a terminal illness, but suffered a range of conditions that made her life uncomfortable including chronic back pain and fainting episodes.

    She told the Sunday Times: “It is hell. I can’t tell you how hard it is. You wouldn’t decide this unless you thought your life was going to be so bad. It is intolerable.”

    It is understood that she stopped drinking water on 16 September and was frustrated that her death wasn’t days after, but two weeks.


    She told the paper that she had no alternative as the other methods are “either illegal or I would need to go to [the Dignitas clinic in] Switzerland – and I want to die in my own bed”.

    Earlier this month Australian doctor Philip Nitschke opened a clinic in the UK to help advise people on how to end their lives.
    -H.

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  14. Hi Karl,

    just wanted to say I've been following your blog since 2011 and have been an avid reader ever since. I also discovered your truly great posts over at TLO (ligotti.net). I even saved some of your posts to a simple text file, so I know there is at least one living person sharing some of my view points. I especially liked your post about what's wrong with modern life.

    I don't know if you already read this, but there is quite a nice interview with Douglas Hofstadter concerning the technological singularity:

    http://tal.forum2.org/story_88

    It's from 2008, but still interesting that there is at least one scientist who holds such a view concerning the technological singularity.

    Take care!

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